The mainstream media often claims that frequent ejaculation is associated with a variety of health benefits for men – improved sperm quality, reduction in inflammation and heart health. ‘Studies’ have also supposedly found that men ejaculating 2-4 times a week had a lower risk of prostate cancer.
While registered medical professionals acknowledge ‘diminishing returns’ on ejaculating more than 4 times a week for prostate health.. they advise that “there is no such thing as ejaculating too much”.
Wow that really sounds great, doesn’t it? Kind of reminds me of those ‘studies’ that say drinking coffee helps reduce the chance of getting alzheimers, and that eating chocolate and drinking red wine improves heart health.
What’s next? Nacho cheese dorito dust helping to prevent lung cancer? Playing Call of Duty on X-box protecting against rheumatoid arthritis?
Remember, the experts are publicly claiming that “there is no such thing as ejaculating too much”.
Really? There’s no upper limit here? Does that match with your experience?
When blatantly ridiculous claims are being made by the medical establishment at large, perhaps it’s time to take a step back and consider some other possibilities.
An older perspective
Allow me to make a short disclaimer for the skeptics out there (of which I consider myself one) – I will be speaking here in some abstract ‘non-scientific’ terms. I ask you to consider the broader implications of these ideas before throwing them out just because they don’t initially fit with the world view we have been taught by the school system and mainstream media apparatus.
If our historical timelines are to be believed, Taoism is many hundreds of years old. As with Ayervedic medicine from India, we can often find very common sense ideas about health and vitality that are lacking in our modern world – where common sense appears to be less common.
According to Taoism a man’s semen is a primary carrier and storage vehicle for his life force. The idea is tied in with the concept of ‘Chi’ (as in Tai Chi or Chi Gong) and suggests that the testicles are a key producer of this energy, which can subsequently be circulated around the body and used for other purposes like healing. That is – unless it is ejected out of the penis while staring at a computer screen, for example.
The above book suggests that this energy can only really start to be properly experienced and manipulated after abstaining from ejaculation for around 30 days. A month? How many men in the modern world – unless they were consciously trying – would not inevitably ejaculate somehow over the course of an average month?
The author Mantak Chia claims that when semen supplies are depleted, 30% of a man’s daily energy expenditure will go towards replenishing stocks – energy that could have otherwise been used on any number of other things in the body (e.g. cell and organ repair).
Of course we’ve all heard about professional athletes who abstain from sex in the lead up to a match or fight, and while I’m no pro athlete – if I personally imagine my energy levels the day of/after ejaculating, that number sounds about right.
Mantak goes as far to say that as a man this substance is literally your life force, and every wasted ejaculation (ie. which is not used for reproduction) is doing you damage and hastening your body’s movement towards old age and death. Sounds far fetched? Take a look at some aging rock-stars. We know that women have a limited supply when it comes to egg production over a lifetime – but yet we assume that mens’ reproductive material can somehow be squandered daily at no cost?
Chia is not saying that abstintence from sex is required or even advisable – rather that energy can be generated through the interaction of man and woman (see the book cover) and then conserved like a battery for other applications.
He notes that this knowledge of managing and circulating Chi – as opposed to the animalistic impulse to blast it out as soon as pressure starts to build – was closely guarded in the ancient world. Only the Emperor (who had onerous concubine duties) and certain elites were trained in this art form – it was considered too dangerous for the average peasant (or enemy soldier) to be accumulating such energy, motivation and focus.
With all of that in mind, let’s consider the story that we – the profane and ignorant masses of the modern age – have been taught about ejaculation.
Our masturbation education
Government education systems all around the world have for decades been teaching kids that masturbation is ‘normal’ and ‘healthy’, in contrast to older puritanical ideas which assigned guilt or sin to the practice. Of course this new stance is generally interpreted by parents to be positive and ‘progressive’, though some are becoming perturbed by the decreasing age at which this material is being presented.
Mainstream movies and television shows have gradually become more and more brazen about including masturbation (and sexual content in general) as time goes on. Jason Biggs penetrating a ‘warm apple pie’ in American Pie and Ben Stiller catching a load on his own ear in ‘There’s something about Mary’ now seem relatively tame when compared to what Hollywood produces today.
Darren Aronofsky’s ‘The Whale’ (2022) opens with a morbidly-obese 600-pound writing instructor furiously masturbating to gay porn on his couch.
Fraser received a 6-minute standing ovation at the Venice Film Festival and took home the ‘best actor’ Oscar for his performance.
The rise of porn
If masturbation in films has been on the rise in recent decades, the growth in pornography production and distribution has been meteoric.
Tech writers and ‘historians’ will tell us that media technology – and especially the internet – has always been driven by the ‘adult’ industry. From VHS tapes to video games, from virtual reality to online video streaming, the story goes that tech advancement is powered by man’s insatiable urge to jerk off – and then the ‘regular’ marketplace takes over from there.
Whether that is true, or whether this technology comes from the same place that the internet itself and most all technology appears to come from (DARPA and military research) the fact remains that pornography has been spread far and wide.
With the advent of mobile phones and high speed data plans, now 12-year-old boys can watch hardcore pornography any time of the day from the comfort of their own locked bathrooms. The sheer breadth of porn produced and the pervasiveness of it in modern culture does raise a certain question though. Who is paying for it?
Have you ever entered a credit number? Do you know anyone who has ever paid for it?
These portal sites make money from advertising you say – but ultimately who is paying for that?
Presumably the thousands (millions?) of women out there who participate in these public sex acts are getting paid something by somebody, but… who exactly is footing the bill for all this?
I would suggest that while Rome continues, there will always be funding for bread and circuses.
Normalisation
Along with the mass expansion of pornographic content and access, there has been a full-spectrum normalisation of pornography in general. According to mainstream-media sentiment, pornography is no longer something ‘dirty’ or to be ashamed of. Apparently today, both the consumption of and participation in porn are to be celebrated relentlessly.
Leading the charge when it comes to pornography promotion – so it seems – are famous comedians. Known for their ‘edgy’ takes and willingness to share masturbation and awkward sex experiences on stage, these comics love nothing more than having a porn ‘star’ on their podcast so they can tell them how much they respect them for having sex on camera.
Thanks to their Netflix specials, comedy tours and podcast sponsorship deals, many of these comedians – who most people have still never heard of – are making hundreds of thousands of US dollars per month. Such is the value of being a ‘thought-leader’ of the youth, while being willing to promote brands and ideas for money.
There are now massive pornography trade shows which are like Comic-Con, except for porn. Instead of bugging Captain America for an autograph, you can tell your hero face-to-face that you like the way she does anal.
There are also awards shows like the AVN (Adult Video News) awards with categories like ‘Best Anal Sex Scene’, ‘Best Trans Series’ and ‘Most Epic Ass’.
At this rate of ‘stigma removal’, I think it’s quite possible that eventually the classic “get caught jerking off by your parent” teen-movie staple will become redundant. A teen of tomorrow might be just as confused watching that scene, as they are about the noises coming out of the character’s dial-up modem.
Escalation and desensitisation
Like any addiction – consumption leads to tolerance, desensitisation, and the need to consume more now to get the same ‘hit’ you got last week. Many men report escalation over time – not only in terms of quantity, but of pornography ‘genres’ that go against their true values and sexuality.
While porn sites are careful to tread the line of legality – it’s never ‘incest’ but rather step-moms, step-sisters and so on – men are clearly offered a pathway to more and more depraved material as they tire of ‘normal’ sex. They report gradually only being able to get aroused by things like:
- Femdom: the girl beating, insulting and penetrating the man with a strap-on.
- Cuckolding: in every configuration you can imagine.
- Bisexual, gay, and transsexual porn.
Note that these are self-proclaimed straight men who often claim that they are only interested in these things in the context of porn, and that they actually feel disgusted with themselves afterwards.
I recently became aware of a genre known as ‘sissy hypno’. Here, images of hot women are utilised to stimulate the straight-male target audience, before the viewer is suddenly presented with with contrasting images of erect penises and such, along with words or voices telling the viewer he is gay and should “suck cock” and so forth. The idea is that the material ‘rewires’ the viewer to feel like they ARE the woman in the situation and to experience the scene from the female perspective. These videos are often accompanied by various hypnotic induction techniques such as binaural beats and strobing visuals to further entrance the viewer.
Is it any surprise that men who consume this kind of weaponised sex imagery on a regular basis find it hard to get it up for regular Sally-down-the-street?
I don’t want to discount the impact of xenoestrogens in everyday household items, a compromised GMO-laden food supply and common-place consumption of pharmaceutical drugs like anti-depressants… but could this type of widespread and extreme porn consumption be contributing to our epidemic of erectile dysfunction in young men?
Performance ‘enhancement’
It’s only been 20 years since Viagra was approved by the FDA as the first oral treatment for erectile dysfunction, and after a mere decade or so of making jokes about it in the media (aka product promotion), the product in its various forms appears to be pretty much normalised and socially accepted.
How convenient that these same podcasters who are promoting porn consumption are also selling the ‘remedy’ for the erectile dysfunction that this activity seems to result in.
Young men are apparently now casually popping a BlueChew while paying the bill at the restaurant, so that if they can time it right – allowing an hour for it to take effect on a full stomach – they have a 4-6 hour window of being able to actually get their penis hard. What a time to be alive.
‘Only fans’
If the epidemic of hardcore porn consumption wasn’t enough, the popularity explosion of ‘Onlyfans’ in 2020 has left even more men hopelessly chasing the ejaculation dragon – and this time they’re paying for it financially as well as physically.
If Instagram is softcore porn, Only Fans is.. well.. actual porn, but with more interaction.
Fantasy and reality blur as these ‘real girls’ seamlessly merge their pornography work into their regular social media channels. Now that ‘content creators’ are able to provide a more ‘participatory’ experience, their porno-consuming customers start to feel like they really ‘know’ these girls, and their reptilian brains become even more confused by these counterfeit relationships.
As the mainstream media pumps out stories of the obscene monthly incomes women are making from the site, more and more women are signing up and the whole ecosystem of pay-to-jerk becomes increasingly socially acceptable.
So where are we at? We’ve still got guys jerking off at home, but now they’re paying 30 bucks a month for the privilege and half-feeling like they’re in an emotional relationship, leaving them even less motivated to go out into the real world to find a partner.
Can we just.. give these guys a break?
The no-fap movement
Supposedly originating from a 2011 thread on reddit.com, ‘no fap’ is a website and community forum which acts as a support group for men who want to give up pornography and masturbation – generally for health, psychological and relationship benefits.
This apparent first step towards sanity has been criticised by psychologists, medical professionals and neuroscientists for being ‘simplistic’, ‘outdated’ and ‘pseudo-scientific’. Why are these brainiacs so concerned about guys not jerking off? I guess big-pharma aren’t handing out research grants for that.
Some may ask why any of this matters. When it comes to young men, reproductive material is coming from a limitless supply anyway, right? Unfortunately, just because a young body seems to be able to rapidly replenish stock, it doesn’t mean that the practice isn’t taking a toll.
Aside from the most commonly discussed benefits like improved mental focus, mood, increased libido and renewed attraction to ‘regular’ women – there are young men in online forums who also talk about things like the cessation of arthritic problems in their knees and such.
That can’t be right, can it? Athletic 20-year-old men suffering from knee problems which developed alongside a 4-5 time a day jerk-off habit, now now subsiding thanks to their abstinence from masturbation?
What is this scandalous pseudo-science? Or perhaps the energy and resources that were for years funnelled almost exclusively into relentless sperm production, can now be used for other applications like cartilage and tissue repair.
‘No fap’ – while being a step in the right direction – doesn’t seem to be a complete solution however. Firstly, it doesn’t preclude ejaculatory sex, and secondly it doesn’t appear to address the issue of a continuous building of pressure in the genital region which would appear to make an eventual lapse inevitable. If it was a permanent solution I don’t think they would still be counting the days-since-last-jerk.
For these reasons and more, I suspect that some kind of older more established practices which incorporate circulation of this energy (like the Taoist ones referred to earlier) are probably a better long term strategy.
A return to common sense
As with any practice or lifestyle choice that deviates from the establishment-prescribed mold – and which may render a man or woman less dependent on the system – the mainstream media will tend to criticise, mock and ‘debunk’. Strangely these same ‘skeptics’ will paint a picture of an ‘inevitable’ future where robo-blowjob machines are the new ‘nespresso’ craze and where men gladly form romantic relationships with walking, talking sex dolls.
If I take my own experience: as of now I’ve only abstained from ejaculation for just shy of a month and I can already feel my energy consistently rising with generally better mood, more optimism and less irritability. I am yet to properly strengthen my semen-blocking muscles and so have been cautious when testing non-ejaculatory sex, but it’s very possible as we all know – and not the blue-ball horror show that Hollywood tries to paint it as.
If you think about it logically for a moment – this is all pretty obvious. The exhaustion that men experience after ejaculation is not from the exercise component of the sex act itself. If it was, stopping at 99% would leave you 99% exhausted, but it’s nothing like that. Sex without ejaculation – for men – is not unlike going for a run where it almost feels like you end up with more energy afterwards than when you started.
We’re encouraged to think of semen as some kind of fast-expiring biological stockpile that needs to be purged to make way for fresh produce. Does that correlate with your experience though? If you didn’t urinate or have a bowel movement for weeks you wouldn’t feel better and better each day, would you? No, you would die.
Much of the training we receive through school and via the media is geared around one thing: to lead us to disregard the plain truth which sits right in front of us.
If it works, it works.
One major reason why the majority of people who succeed do not begin to do so before the age of 40 to 50 is their tendency to dissipate their energies through overindulgence in the physical expression of the emotion of sex.
Napoleon Hill, author of ‘Think and Grow Rich’ and ‘Outwitting the Devil’.
